Some sacrifices to get “The Ring”
Harry Winston, ... anyone?
Since my engagement is quite new then it’s decided to be the topic of the day.
Some people believe that a wedding without any engagement is enough and at the same time you save more money. They believe that the real symbol for love is not about the ring, but rather the heart.
On the contrary, some others believe that an engagement is a MUST since normally you’d only be engaged once in your lifetime. Like a wedding, you can’t miss out on it! And the ring is a must-have! And the value of it gotta be of the guy’s 3 months wage! Not even less than that.
I tried to group myself into one of the options, but as someone who doesn’t want to have an engagement party and received a ring that valued less than 3 months wage, I actually found myself content in my situation. Here are some factors that help us to make a decision. Warning: We need to remember that the same thing might not apply to everyone 
- Communication is a very important factor in deciding to get a ring or not to get it. As what I mentioned before, I prefer that I have one ;) It might be romantic to have the ring as a surprise. The downside of it is when the woman prefer to have other style. Again, it might be possible or it might be not. Personally, I’d love to pick the ring myself and let the man pay for it. Here’s when communication plays another important part. I can’t force him to pay more than he can afford (even though I believe that his best interest is to give me the best – that no man can ever bought before). For those who can afford it – that’s good. But for those who doesn’t, this can be a source of your argument. Believe me…
- Saving. While at the same time you know that you’re not the one that will pay for the ring, the least that you can do is to decrease the fun time that cost money! Simple example is dining out, which I do every week. It really doesn’t matter how much you save, because the main purpose is to let him save more (thus, you can have your ring faster!!!
). Moreover, you take part in saving up for the wedding as well! For men: Stop being proud and pay for every meal when she offered to pay. For women: at the very least,offer to pay for his meal… and if window shopping doesn’t help. . .- don’t go at all! Stop buying those magazines and stop looking at those skirts, coat, accessories, shoes, shoes, shoes and more shoes!! It will only leads to more wants. Remember, it might be hurt at time, but it’s for your own good at the end. - Be traditional. Just pretend that there never is a cinema near your house. That the only source of watching a movie is either to borrow some dvds or … download it. That Fitness First is never ever been built at Myaree shopping complex, that you signed up with them and let them take your money, butyou’re hibernating at home instead of going. That you never heard of places called pub or club or lounge… EVER in your life. Stop using those blackberry ’til you ended up with $400 bill (above the cap)! This is the time to learn to be content… with everything that we have. Sad, but true. Don’t worry, this won’t go for long. And here I hope that you won’t get depressed…
- At the end of it I can’t force everyone to do those things above… since I failed so many times before… just try to do your best!! Everything will work out for good!
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